Dating bi married
I realized that I was falling in love with one of my female friends (who is also bisexual).I also started to realize that strict monogamy may not be the best idea for me.Since my husband and I are monogamous, my bisexuality became pretty much invisible. Chances are that if we’ve met, chatted, tweeted, exchanged thumbnails, I probably imagined us having phenomenal sex. But when it comes to the topic of women and sexual desire, people seem to forget that sexual desire and consent are not the same thing and lose sight of that little thing called boundaries. It’s bad enough trying to navigate sexual tension with men; I did not want to have to do that with women, too.
” This June, the problem with not speaking up about my identity came into sharp focus.The fact that I get to outwardly conform to a heteronormative presumption that, as a married woman, I don’t have sexual impulses for anyone but my man often felt like a relief from a whole lot of landmines in my relationships. One of the things that attracted me to my now-husband was that when he heard I was bisexual, he didn’t fall into this assumption.His first question wasn’t whether or not we were going to have a threesome.But even if a bisexual person does cheat, it's hardly evidence that bisexuality inclines a person toward infidelity. But I understand where this misconception comes from.At most, it's only evidence that the person cheated and is therefore not presently cut out for monogamous dating. Many gay guys (myself included) claim to be bisexual as a sort of "baby step" out of the closet.
It's one reason why so many bisexuals — my ex included — feel so excluded from the LGBT movement.